Are You Standing In Your Own Way?

Every day I talk to people who are contemplating significant changes in their lives. It might be a new job, an entirely new career or even a move to a brand new city (with a new job/new career, too, of course!). They tell me that they are ready and excited to embark on the journey that will lead them to their goal, so we start to discuss all of the different options, avenues and approaches that are available to them. But then the strangest thing happens… they begin to tell me all of the reasons their “something new” can’t happen.

Don’t get me wrong- while making any change can be motivating and energizing, it can also be hard work, draining and sometimes frightening. But so can standing in your own way. How often do we really, truly want something, but come up with a list of reasons about why we “just can’t” get it? Our perceptions, fears and assumptions sneak their way into our minds – creating a bunch of rationalizations, excuses and false realities about why it just can’t be. But what if it could? What if we are the ones who are actually preventing ourselves from forging ahead?

Well…move over and get out of your way!

What’s the worst that can happen?  You have a new experience, face a fear, learn a great lesson or grow as a person?  Or better yet – you surprise yourself, embrace the adventure and move closer toward fulfilling your life goals?

Usually, the things we want the most are the ones that seem the most overwhelming and challenging to attain. It’s a lot easier to stay with what we know and justify why the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow is just too out of reach for us. But, in the wise words of Wayne Gretzky, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”

Maybe next time, when the “I can’ts” start creeping up on you, make a list of the things that are holding you back.  You might be surprised at what you see.

Frankly speaking, Change can definitely be scary and we are often our own worst enemies. But, we don’t get anywhere unless we seize the moment and go after the things that will catapult us forward.

“You’re off to Great Places! Today is your day! Your mountain is waiting, So…get on your way!”  – Dr. Seuss



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