Chasing Your Future

Admittedly, I’ve been a little MIA from the blogosphere recently.  It’s not that I haven’t had anything good to share –that’s hardly the case in my world. But, every time I sat down to put my thoughts to the keyboard, my mind started racing in a million different directions…until today.

Today at the gym one of my gym-friends pulled me aside after class. I could tell that she wanted to “talk” (even though we were standing right smack in the middle of the weight-lifters and mat stretchers). I could see by the look on her face that she was unsettled about something. When I asked her what was wrong, she just looked at me and said, “I’m just not sure where I’m supposed to be. In work, life – everywhere.”  I responded to her – without even thinking twice, “You are exactly where you are supposed to be.”  And then it dawned on me.

I, like most of you, have areas in my life that I wish would change, evolve, improve…or maybe even disappear altogether.  I’ve dedicated my life to helping others achieve their career and life ambitions, and now I’ve found myself at a similar crossroads – wishing that certain things in my life were different and feeling impatient that I can’t change them overnight. But, today, when listening to my gym-friend, it just came to me.  I’ve been so pre-occupied with attaining my next big career goal and finding my next life-changing moment that I’ve disregarded where I am right now.

I’ve been laser-focused on running towards the pastures that look prettier and greener than my own, but have I actually been wishing away my present while chasing my future? Might I look back and be sorry one day that I didn’t appreciate all that was actually in front of me in this very moment? Could it be that I, too, am exactly where I’m supposed to be, but blinded by the fact that I’m wishing I were someplace else?

I think so.

Every day people come to me because they want to make a big change. Day in and day out, I coach them on how to move towards what will make them happier.  But, the world moves so quickly now, and those conversations seem more and more frequent. I sometimes stop and wonder how often people take a breather to actually appreciate the here-and-now moments without feeling the pressure of getting ahead or the need to always have something better or more.

It’s true that goals, aspirations, plans and dreams are all essential to creating and living a fulfilling life.  They give us something to work towards – a reason to get out of bed in the morning, an opportunity to take chances and an overall purpose. But, the layovers, detours, roadblocks and stops on the journey are where the real adventures, experiences and take-aways are. Even though sometimes we feel completely lost, frustrated, blindsided and unsure of what lies ahead, I’m (slowly) beginning to appreciate that this is what “living” is all about.

Recently, I watched the “You’re Not Special” commencement speech from Wellesley High School. If you haven’t seen it, I would definitely recommend it. I’ll  leave you with one of his quotes from the speech that truly resonated with me and hope that it leaves you with something, too, as you chase your future.

“Like accolades ought to be, the fulfilled life is a consequence, a gratifying byproduct. It’s what happens when you’re thinking about more important things. Climb the mountain not to plant your flag, but to embrace the challenge, enjoy the air and behold the view. Climb it so that you can see the world, not so the world can see you. Go to Paris to be in Paris, not to cross it off your list and congratulate yourself for being worldly. Exercise free will and creative, independent thought not for the satisfactions they will bring you, but for the good they will do others, the rest of the 6.8 billion – and those who will follow them.”

-David McCullough, High School English Teacher


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